A Father’s Advice to His Son – Kipling

A Fathers Advice to His Son, by Rudyard Kipling, inspires us to dream, keep our virtue, uphold our honesty and moral fabric…all great lessons that we should embrace as men and women throughout our journey. “If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise If you can dream – and not make dreams your master; If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,…

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Better Password Security

Password security is a critical part of one’s Cyber Life. Do you use your last name, pet’s name or birth date as a password or login? If you do, you are not alone. Even internet guru Mark Zuckerberg used a simple password for his Facebook account and was easily hacked. Here is a complete solution to secure your cyberlife.

Living Joyfully Is An Art

Living Joyfully Is An Art

Are you living joyfully everyday? The art of living joyfully is created through our daily choices and actions. LivingSingleLivingWell is about the Art of Single Living, and specifically, joyful living. Our courage allows us to manifest optimism and confidence. This emboldens us to seek greatness. We recreate our lives each day allowing joyful living to be within our reach. Millions of people are learning, or relearning, how to live a healthy, happy and purposeful single-life. Being single today may be your choice; it may be a decision that was made for you. The reality is that you and I, and millions of others are learning how to be single, date, build new relationships and heal the past. We all work to communicate better, find peace, and create healthy, happy, purposeful lives. Each of us is on an individual journey toward understanding self, personal growth and the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. It is my sincere hope that LivingSingleLivingWell is a springboard for thought and reflection.  LivingSingleLivingWell is an open, welcoming forum that may open the door to a deeper understanding of how we each choose to live an optimistic and happy single life. For at least today, you are single because you…

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Does Fear of Judgment Change Your Social Behavior?

Does Fear of Judgment Change Your Social Behavior?

Fear of judgment creates doubt, insecurity and inaction Concern for how others view us, and fear of judgment is not an irrationally held emotion. We are social creatures; we live in the confines of a community that has long-standing values and standard of acceptability. Placing too much emphasis on judgment by others is paralyzing and costly. Fear of judgment is an overblown emotion that you elevated into an unwarranted status. At all cost, discard fear of judgment and let go of the limitations that this creates. It is easy for us to live in our minds in whip certain thoughts into a frenzy of emotions. We most often tend to over-inflate certain emotions when we allow them to take an unjustified place of importance in our mind. This usually happens during times of uncertainty when we place a high degree of importance on the outcome: the beginning or end of romantic relationships, before job interviews, and anytime we have a sense of insecurity or doubt and our path is not clear. Fear of judgment is limiting; it creates inaction, paralysis and negative emotions. Eliminate it without a second thought. No one understands your inner monologue, motivations, desire or end-goal. In…

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Learning To Grow From Past Relationships

Learning To Grow From Past Relationships

Past Relationships Help Us To Grow If I am a sapling today, what will I be tomorrow or when I draw my last breath? What does “learning to grow in a relationship mean”? Do I grow from past relationships? Do I make meaningful strides to improve myself both during and after the relationship ends? Do I take lessons learned and apply them to my life to improve? Do I become more aware and create a better version of myself? I have always believed that in this life journey, we are in constant development and constant preparation. Life is a journey of personal growth regardless of who we choose to bring into our lives. In those moments between past relationships, we have the chance to reflect, discard unwanted baggage and embrace our full potential. Each relationship that you experience is relevant so we should always be learning to grow in a relationship. While not every relationship will last forever, each is an opportunity to learn, grow and improve. I do not mean to minimize the value of past relationships, even if they were significant, like a deep love or long-term marriage. For one reason or another, however, that relationship ended. Either…

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Can A Romance Start As “Friends First”?

Can A Romance Start As “Friends First”?

“Friends First” Romantic Relationships Succeed When Expectations Align Romantic relationships, or call it love if you want, start in only one of the three ways: You meet, have romantic interest, fall in love and you find yourself shopping for a baby carriage before you know it. You have an existing friend of the opposite sex, and by someone’s choice, you are currently sitting in the “friend zone”. You meet, both have romantic interest, and you both make a choice to play it cool, develop your friendship first, and let the romance evolve in some natural manner. The question of whether a romantic relationship can evolve from a “friends first” starting point, or if you can survive the “friends first”, is materially different than migrating up the romance ladder from the “friend zone”.  These topics have always been great fodder for tabletop conversations at happy hour, but it important to understand how, and under what premise a relationship begins. For those who have attractive friends of the opposite sex, or simply want to take things slowly in new romantic relationships, the mechanisms for how you start your romantic relationship matter. The issue is really about expectations that both parties have going…

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8 Best Reasons To Avoid Calling Your Ex

8 Best Reasons To Avoid Calling Your Ex

Why are you calling your Ex! Stop The Bleeding And Start The Healing. If you are still thinking about calling your ex, first ask yourself if you are emotionally satisfied, your self-esteem is solid and you have read 3 Essentials to Create a Balanced Life. You and your ex broke up and you still have these wild over how it ended, should it have ended, and you never quite got all of your questions answered so the tape that plays in your head is on overdrive. The romantic idea that you want to be, or are going to be friends is a moonshot. Simply said, it is never going to happen. It is like physics and gravity, and you cannot fight the reality of that which you cannot change. Let’s discuss the 8 best reasons calling your ex is a bad idea. Many people talk about being friends after a break up, but be real. Unless there was no emotional investment by either party, it might be possible, as long as there was no intimacy involved prior to the breakup. If there was intimacy, then all bets are off. It is not going to happen so don’t waste each others…

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Divorce, PTSD and Broken Heart Have Common Emotions

Divorce, PTSD and Broken Heart Have Common Emotions

Broken Heart, Divorce, and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Have Common Threads & Symptoms. PTSD has been spotlighted in returning war Veterans but it also affects millions of people who suffer, or witness, a tragedy or loss. Any form of traumatic incident, including, “mugging, rape, torture, being kidnapped or held captive, child abuse, car accidents, train wrecks, plane crashes, bombings, or natural disasters such as floods or earthquakes”[1] are susceptible to PTSD and its symptoms. That means that significant emotional trauma, like divorce, dissolution of partnership, discovery of infidelity, breach of trust and many other events can induce PTSD. A broken heart and PTSD can be commonly associated. Ms. Melissa Kantor, author of The Breakup Bible, relates a candid and vivid description of a painful break-up and that “the pain can feel agonizing, all-encompassing, and eternal. Many describe that the actual breakup and ensuing weeks feel like an out-of-body experience. Along with the suffering comes a roller coaster of complex feelings: embedded grief, abandonment and fear, guilt, monstrous rage, [and even] seeing healthy people behave insanely when they have been rejected.” Depending on the length of the relationship, depth of emotional vesting and how the relationship ended are all causal factors…

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Top 14 Leadership Principles For Success

Top 14 Leadership Principles For Success

Is anyone leading today? It is time that we quit following the herd. Each of us is a leader within our own sphere of influence, be it family, friends or professionally. Everyday we make decisions based on guiding principles that we learned from our family, in childhood, or as we grew. We have created and implemented the moral code that is uniquely our own. For some, this is a loose standard. Others have an unwavering set of principles to which they are bound. Can you easily identify the moral and ethical code, and standard of conduct that guides your decision-making process? It has been said that great leaders are born in the crucible of chaos and challenge. Those leaders that rose to the challenge and met it with excellence, courage and grace learned both in the moment and from it. They learned about themselves and their capabilities, as well as lessons learned from which they would grow. It is this framework of understanding that is important to each of us. We are all capable of becoming a great leader within our own sphere of influence, but one must first define our guideposts. I have found that difficult decisions are made…

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10 Top Vitamins To Optimize Health

10 Top Vitamins To Optimize Health

10 Top Vitamins To Optimize Your Health With Targeted Micro-nutrient Supplementation “Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.” ― Hippocrates   Highlights: The majority of your micro-nutrients should come from high-quality food top vitamins are not found in a single multivitamin pill inexpensive multivitamins may do more harm than good targeted supplementation is the use of single source micro-nutrients only use high quality supplements for targeted supplementation micro-nutrients should be divided into morning and evening dose check your blood chemistry periodically to ensure proper micro-nutrient balancing use common sense and when in doubt, go without Micro-nutrient deficiency is profound. The standard American diet is grossly deficient in high-quality nutrients. Highly processed foods, poorly fed animals and additives have created an environment where micro-nutrient deficiency has become an epidemic. 48% of the US population is deficient in magnesium, 40% are deficient in vitamin B12 and 10% are deficient folate. Most Americans are especially deficient in vitamin D due to lack of translation by the sun because of lack of exposure and sunscreen. The result of this micro-nutrient deficiency is that you age faster you have resulted DNA damage and you die sooner. Besides a decrease in longevity, micro-nutrient…

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