Does Fear of Judgment Change Your Social Behavior?

Does Fear of Judgment Change Your Social Behavior?

Fear of judgment creates doubt, insecurity and inaction Concern for how others view us, and fear of judgment is not an irrationally held emotion. We are social creatures; we live in the confines of a community that has long-standing values and standard of acceptability. Placing too much emphasis on judgment by others is paralyzing and costly. Fear of judgment is an overblown emotion that you elevated into an unwarranted status. At all cost, discard fear of judgment and let go of the limitations that this creates. It is easy for us to live in our minds in whip certain thoughts into a frenzy of emotions. We most often tend to over-inflate certain emotions when we allow them to take an unjustified place of importance in our mind. This usually happens during times of uncertainty when we place a high degree of importance on the outcome: the beginning or end of romantic relationships, before job interviews, and anytime we have a sense of insecurity or doubt and our path is not clear. Fear of judgment is limiting; it creates inaction, paralysis and negative emotions. Eliminate it without a second thought. No one understands your inner monologue, motivations, desire or end-goal. In…

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Learning To Grow From Past Relationships

Learning To Grow From Past Relationships

Past Relationships Help Us To Grow If I am a sapling today, what will I be tomorrow or when I draw my last breath? What does “learning to grow in a relationship mean”? Do I grow from past relationships? Do I make meaningful strides to improve myself both during and after the relationship ends? Do I take lessons learned and apply them to my life to improve? Do I become more aware and create a better version of myself? I have always believed that in this life journey, we are in constant development and constant preparation. Life is a journey of personal growth regardless of who we choose to bring into our lives. In those moments between past relationships, we have the chance to reflect, discard unwanted baggage and embrace our full potential. Each relationship that you experience is relevant so we should always be learning to grow in a relationship. While not every relationship will last forever, each is an opportunity to learn, grow and improve. I do not mean to minimize the value of past relationships, even if they were significant, like a deep love or long-term marriage. For one reason or another, however, that relationship ended. Either…

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Top 14 Leadership Principles For Success

Top 14 Leadership Principles For Success

Is anyone leading today? It is time that we quit following the herd. Each of us is a leader within our own sphere of influence, be it family, friends or professionally. Everyday we make decisions based on guiding principles that we learned from our family, in childhood, or as we grew. We have created and implemented the moral code that is uniquely our own. For some, this is a loose standard. Others have an unwavering set of principles to which they are bound. Can you easily identify the moral and ethical code, and standard of conduct that guides your decision-making process? It has been said that great leaders are born in the crucible of chaos and challenge. Those leaders that rose to the challenge and met it with excellence, courage and grace learned both in the moment and from it. They learned about themselves and their capabilities, as well as lessons learned from which they would grow. It is this framework of understanding that is important to each of us. We are all capable of becoming a great leader within our own sphere of influence, but one must first define our guideposts. I have found that difficult decisions are made…

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7 Best Ways To Strengthen A Relationship

7 Best Ways To Strengthen A Relationship

7 Best Ways To Strengthen A Relationship It is both an art and a science in how one is able to create, nurture and strengthen a relationship. Human relationships are dynamic, ever evolving and in need of constant care. They are both our most valuable commodity and at times, our most challenging, time consuming personal experience. Personal relationships are the most important part of our lives, and involve the most basic human motivations and emotions. According to Dean Ornish, M.D and countless other medical professionals, personal intimacy affects both our emotional well-being as well as our physical health. Intimate relationships affect our immune system, improves our cardiovascular functioning, and increases our life expectancy. “Love and intimacy are at the root of what makes us sick and what makes us well,” as he discussed in his book Love & Survival. “When you look at the scientific data, the need for love and intimacy is as important and basic as eating, breathing, and sleeping.” Our very survival and health depends on our ability to strengthen a relationship, nurture personal bonds and also release those relationships that adversely affect our lives. It is in our ability to Release – Balance – Focus that…

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3 Essentials To Create A Balanced Life

3 Essentials To Create A Balanced Life

Create a Balanced Life in Three Steps Upgrade your life with the 3 Essentials to Create A Balanced Life. Most people dislike “rules” or “laws” when they are applied in the context of social development, but the “essentials” of the three-step process should be read as immutable, unwavering laws. Without strict adherence to each essential step, one cannot find the peace one seeks, nor the ability to be¬†emotionally available and engage in functional, healthy relationships. Each step is a requisite step in the process of creating a healthy and complete version of self. Think of each essential step as a rules that is not suggestive in nature, but rather directive. Release – Balance¬† – Focus Step 1. Release All that has happened lies in the past but it is now history. Past experiences usually affect us long after the initial impact. They shape our thoughts, what we become and our emotional content. They give us a framework against which we weigh present decisions and create future outcome. Not all of our past events were positive and the emotional baggage rings in our ears like it happened yesterday. We give undue weight to matters that we cannot change. By failing to…

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